Charlotte Anne DeFlumere

Charlotte was born in Augusta, Georgia, on July 25, 1951, to William Charles Sitler and Mary Adelaide “Tommy” Sitler. While living in Augusta, she attended St. Mary on the Hill Catholic Church. When she was nine years old, her family moved to Allendale, South Carolina, where she attended Allendale Elementary School and Allendale-Fairfax High School. She enjoyed playing the bells in the Allendale-Fairfax High School band. After graduating from high school, Charlotte attended Georgia Southern University, where she earned both undergraduate and master’s degrees in nutrition. She worked at Allendale Hospital as well as several other local hospitals.

Her love of patient care, thirst for knowledge, and take-charge style led Charlotte to the Medical University of South Carolina (MUSC) in Charleston, where she earned her medical degree. To qualify for medical school, she took courses at the University of South Carolina in Columbia, coming within one course of completing a second degree.

Charlotte completed her residency in Internal Medicine at Baptist Memorial Hospital in Memphis, Tennessee. She continued her pursuit of knowledge by completing fellowships in Geriatrics and Addiction Medicine. After completing the two fellowships, she became Director of Internal Medicine at Memphis Mental Health Institute (MMHI). Her independent spirit soon led her to leave MMHI and open an Addiction Medicine and Pain Management clinic alongside the psychiatrists of the Memphis Psychiatric Group. She carried a special place in her heart for her patients.

In September 1997, Charlotte married Alan de Flumere of Clinton, New York. They visited several churches before returning to Charlotte’s roots and joining Our Lady of Perpetual Help Catholic Church in Germantown, Tennessee. Her participation in the Catholic Church became one of the great joys of her life. She joined the women’s guild and helped clean the sanctuary, participated in the Catholic Charismatic Renewal, became a member of the Carmelite Order, participated in many Eucharistic Adorations, and formed many close friendships through her faith.

Charlotte embodied the grace, warmth, and charm of the South. A meal was not complete unless it included grits, greens, or a slice of pecan pie. She loved cooking and serving her bridge club on fine china, and she often sported her best Sunday hat for church. Her day wasn’t complete without family, faith, friends and Southern hospitality.

Among Charlotte’s fondest memories were her family’s annual beach weeks at the Isle of Palms, South Carolina. Her earliest recollections were of sleeping in pop-up campers alongside her three sisters, brother, and cousins. In later years, each family took a turn hosting a dinner night at their beach houses. The week brought together at least three generations of family, along with close friends, for a tradition filled with festivities and time together.

Charlotte faced cancer for eleven years with remarkable grace and perseverance, undergoing three major surgeries and receiving exceptional care from many dedicated healthcare professionals. The family extends special gratitude to the leaders of her care team, Dr. Kurt Tauer of the West Cancer Center in Germantown, Tennessee and Dr. Bryan Kee of MD Anderson in Houston, Texas.

Charlotte is survived by her husband, Alan de Flumere, her three younger sisters, Adelaide Andrews (Tim Domin) of Mt. Pleasant, South Carolina, Dawn Greene (Robert) of John’s Creek, Georgia, and Emily Sitler of Mt. Pleasant, South Carolina, her younger brother, William Sitler (Julia) of Williston, South Carolina and a host of beloved cousins, nieces and nephews with whom she shared the family’s annual reunion at the Isle of Palms.

A Mass of Christian Burial will be held at 12:00 PM on Saturday, November 14, 2026, at St. Mary on the Hill Catholic Church. Burial will follow at Westover Memorial Park. The family will receive friends on Friday, November 13, 2026, at Platts Crawford Avenue Chapel. The Vigil for the Deceased will start at 5:30, followed by visitation from 6:00 until 8:00 PM.

In lieu of flowers, memorials may be made to the West Cancer Center and Research institute at 7945 Wolf River Blvd., Germantown, TN 38138, to St Anne Lay Carmelite Community at 706 S. Highland St., Memphis, TN 38111, or to MD Anderson at https://gifts.mdanderson.org.

Funeral arrangements were entrusted to Platt's Funeral Home, 337 N. Belair Road, Evans, GA 30809 (706) 860-6166. Please take a moment to share your condolences by signing the online guestbook at plattsfuneralhome.com.